Tuesday, February 25, 2014

Grandpa's Perspective



My name is Bob Lattin (Stacy’s dad) and I am the first generation in this “multigenerational home project”.  Although the idea came to me sometime in September, I believe that the groundwork had been laid for several years leading up to this project.  Here is a little history on our story:

Stacy and I have had many discussions over the last couple of years regarding homes and property.  She and her husband Dale had a strong desire to live in the country and raise their three boys.  Their dream was a mini farm where the boys would have chores, responsibilities and an energy outlet similar to what she experienced when she was growing up.  I felt that their desires were somewhat unrealistic because of the growing difficulty in finding affordable property with a house large enough for their family.  They also wanted a small acreage located near family, friends, church, and work.   We live on such a property, with the exception of our 1600 square foot house, which is really too small for their family.  We have lived in this home for over 46 years and all our three children were essentially born and raised in it.  In addition, it is located within 5 minutes of our other two children, Ken and Wendy and their families, including a total of eight grandsons.  (As much as it hurts Grandma the only pink in our family is from our girls and our daughter-in-law).  Although this blog is about our building project between us and Stacy’s family, we are blessed to have the love and support from our other daughter and son.  We consider ourselves blessed to have all our kids and grandsons living so close to us. 

The long and short of the story is that Dale and Stacy lived in a nice home on a residential sized lot, located just five minutes from us.  This allowed a lot of interaction between our families.  Stacy’s boys somehow got the idea about us trading houses (I think I know where that came from).  They thought their house would be perfect for Grandma and Grandpa and that our house was just what they needed (although a bit too small).  Honestly, even though I am getting older, I love where we live, and dreaded the time when we would need to move to smaller quarters.  When Stacy and Dale sold their home with the intent to purchase property in Benton City, I was sure that their new location would greatly reduce the family interaction that we had grown used to. 

Well, their purchase fell through.  They were homeless and needed to move in with us until they determined what to do next.  Dale saw this as a family of five simply becoming a family of seven (no big deal).  We saw it as a retired couple becoming a family of seven (a slightly different perspective and pace of life).  They needed to vacate their house and we were glad that we were in a position to allow them to move in with us, realizing that it would be a little “tight”.

Around this time I started formulating the idea of building a new home on our five acres.  The only logical location for a new house is right where our existing home is located.  Besides that, our house was built in 1960 and had been remodeled a number of times and was in need of “another” update.  So here we are, six months later, moving out of our home of 46+ years.  Preparing for a new venture and phase of life where we can enjoy Stacy and her family, having them close for help and future care. Stacy and her family can enjoy raising their boys in a “rural” setting and the convenience of extra schooling tutors when needed.  There is no greater pleasure in life than being called Dad and Grandpa and being part of God’s sovereign plan.

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

City Road Blocks

When considering the next blog post, my desire is to share all the good and exciting things.  Things that seem to show God's blessing on our future plans. And there have been so many instances that we have felt the Lord's hand, more than we can count.  As we move forward we continue to feel the Lord's presence and guidance.  

Recently though, we have encountered some obstacles with the city.  We are approaching the time to submit our house plans and we have hit a snag.  We are caught up in newer city codes that have not been tested related to floor plans having multigenerational living areas.  We are working on getting this ironed out, but in the mean time what do we do?  It has gotten us thinking about how easy it is to trust the Lord in the good times, when it is smooth sailing.  But what about the obstacles?  Can we still trust Him?  

I started thinking about the Bible and the accounts of Joseph, Moses, Abraham and Sarah, Job and so many more.  We have the advantage of knowing how the story ends in these cases.  We KNOW God was with them.  But as things play out in "real time" in our personal lives it is easy to let doubt creep in.  I start asking questions like "is God really in this?" and struggling to find solutions.

The reality is, He has this covered.  It isn't a big snag to the Creator of the Universe.  He knows how this will all turn out.  We don't, but it is our responsibility to choose to trust Him.  

Matthew 6:25-34 Is an excellent passage of scripture.  A portion of verse 28 says: Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:

So now we wait and see how it all comes together!